Saturday, February 2, 2008

On Some EARly Lessons.

Few lessons we learn at times from a hard knock of simplicity. Just because we choose to ignore them more too often - as we step upon the strides of mundane complexity, solving "real" problems. A morbid dichotomy isn't it?

Learn to Listen, is probably one of them I had stumbled upon early. We listen, but only till the ears - in all but few occaisons. In early college years I started out to listen tough to the inside of people I met - for few minutes to long years, but this is something I find not that practice-and-perfect type lessons.

That apart, at times we also learn some raw wisdoms on our own, but before we can discern and articulate them, an imposing blindness of obvious again shrinks us onto our ordinary closed thoughts. I distantly felt this today again while watching the experiences of this noble Lady - Jacqueline Novogratz and her exemplary efforts - which I'll talk about in the next post. These constructs of opinion on Listening were frozen deep within some obscure thoughts of mine, which she draws upon here rather forthrightly:

...That Listening is not only about waiting with a patient open ear, but it's also about learning how better to ask questions. That some people are so used to not being posed questions that when we do it to them - they are really not sure that we want to know the truth - and its really hard for them to say what they mean...

...And then we would probably blame them for being ignorant, obtuse or whatever, while they would be left in discomfort at being "asked" about something...
However what concerns me further is that people often ARE driven by this powerful tug of silent observation, but I feel their sense of "ordinary" usually shoves these thoughts off into the Trash. And as they bury their doubts and questions, they sow seeds of ill skepticism - within and outside.

And then we face lack of understanding between men of dissimilar orders, or background or of traits. We witness departed interests, differences in opinions, then conflicts and even wars...
Interpersonal Expectations can't fulfill onto themselves, really.

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